Ask Her

Ask Her: Monique Lhuillier


MONIQUE LHUILLIER Marking the brand’s twenty-fifth anniversary, the Filipino-American fashion designer just released her debut coffee table book, Monique Lhuillier: Dreaming of Fashion and Glamour, showcasing the brand’s evolution into a global luxury lifestyle brand and celebrating some of her most influential red carpet looks over the decades. Below, she answers our reader’s questions about the ideal marriage proposal.


What is the ideal marriage proposal consisting of in most women’s minds? It’s a lot of pressure and would hate to get it wrong or have her be sweet about it but secretly disappointed.


Be creative and have fun!!! Do something unexpected and think outside the box! Remember, she will tell this story to your future grandchildren, family, and friends.Take special note of the details and go the extra mile to make it a time she will remember the rest of her life.

Above all, the ideal proposal should be special. Both for the bride and for the groom. It is such an important moment for the couple and should represent something unique to them. Whether it is the place where they met or an activity they enjoy doing together, it is key that the moment feels like it embodies what they represent.

For many women, they have been waiting for the proposal for a long time. The groom’s vulnerability, sincerity, devotion, and commitment that he shows during a proposal is what will touch her heart most. It is important that the woman feels seen, acknowledged, and honored. I suggest that the groom prepares notes and devotes some time to mentally rehearsing what he wants to say, but speaks from the heart.

If you have a willing friend, enlist them to film the proposal. Sharing the video with friends and family will not only make them feel a part of the experience, as if they were there, but they can also share in your joy. Plus, you can watch it on repeat for the rest of your life.

I also suggest planning a celebration after the proposal—whether with a close group of friends or family. It is always nice to toast with loved ones and celebrate!!

Lastly, keep it a surprise! There is nothing better than seeing her face with genuine surprise, joy, and happiness.